When I was a new mom, a friend said something I’ve been mulling over ever since.
“People over projects,” she said.
We are both writers; she was speaking about finding work/life balance in the midst of the parenting storm. Projects were important, sure. Projects were great. But people needed to come first.
I nodded. There in the first few years of parenthood, prioritizing people over any kind of task made complete sense. My life was all people. Little people, to be exact, their needs so much bigger than the bodies I cuddled and held.
The phrase met me where I was: in the new discipline of parenthood.
So I filed the phrase away in my tool-belt of sayings, like “use your words,” and “please ask a polite question.”
At the time, I saw the phrase as a restriction, meaning things can wait. Little children often cannot.
But with my children older now, and the projects I’m dreaming—creative dreams, dreams of spirituality and justice and community—growing as quickly as my kids, I’m starting to see this phrase as less restrictive, and more of a starting place…