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When being present for your kids is scary

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While I'm away, I'm digging back into my archives and posting a few goodies from the way-back machine. Enjoy! I love my kids. I love homeschooling them. I love not rushing from one place to another. So why, then, when I wake up and we have nothing planned, why do I feel afraid? Now let’s be clear: [...]

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When ‘nothing’ happens and it pisses you off: Why I’m a feminist thumbnail

I know, I know, I'm not blogging this month. But I saw Suzannah Paul link to the Faith Feminisms synchroblog and I wanted to participate. I'm slogging through All the Feelings about this right now, and I want to stand up and be counted. Thanks to the organizers for creating space to share. It has [...]

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The Revolutionary Technique for Creativity, Flat Abs, Fabulous Parenting, Evolved Spirituality and General Awesomeness thumbnail

While I'm away, I'm digging back into my archives and posting a few goodies from the way-back machine. Enjoy! Here it is. Let’s all take a deep breath. Become a beginner. Not an expert. Not yet. First, you must start someplace. A start, a beginning, will humble you and bring you to your knees. Stay [...]

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“I could never do what you’re doing” is a cop-out. thumbnail

While I'm away, I'm digging back into my archives and posting a few goodies from the way-back machine. Enjoy! I’m at the doctor’s office, or church, or at a new women’s group. Someone asks where my child goes to school, and I tell them we homeschool. Before I got comfortable with homeschooling, I assumed people [...]

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There’s power in naming the truth: for SheLoves Magazine thumbnail

Recently, I blithely told one of my friends from high school that my experience in our church youth group had been largely positive. Here’s why I felt that way: the group was my first time in Christian fellowship. I served in leadership for three years, was there for almost every event, made a tight group [...]

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I am a spiritual misfit

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“I am not the Christian I want to be.” I typed the words on my computer, then I stared at them for a minute. For my hammering heart and the cold sweat I felt slinking down my arms, one would think I were confessing to some kind of felony. No: thought crimes were all I [...]

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a pause, an exhale, a faithful break

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Guys. You know that thing where you're on a roll? Where there are good things happening and there are so many things you can do, because life is full and rich and there's healing and good conversations and-- and the roll can start to feel a little bit like a snowball hurtling downhill, gathering speed? I [...]

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when vulnerability is the best lesson of all

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To be honest, I’m still not sure why I freaked out about the clay. My daughter had found the battery-powered pottery wheel at the thrift store. Her face flushed with excitement, she placed the box on the counter and paid for it with her allowance. I was tentative at best. The thing looked like a [...]

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On giving up: why I hate confessing my sins

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For a long time, I thought the reason I didn't like confession was because facing the things I've done wrong during the day--an attitude of entitlement, say, or sheer impatience with my family, or arrogance and vanity--well, it's painful. It's like the moment when my daughters come screaming to me with a skinned knee, all [...]

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Please, Leadership Journal: Take down that post.

I cannot express to your my horror and outrage at the article up on Christianity Today's Leadership Journal. I was in a youth group like the one described, where a close friend was the victim. The reverberations of that abuse, and the abusive culture of our youth group, are still with me. And I didn't [...]

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