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When ‘nothing’ happens and it pisses you off: Why I’m a feminist thumbnail

I know, I know, I'm not blogging this month. But I saw Suzannah Paul link to the Faith Feminisms synchroblog and I wanted to participate. I'm slogging through All the Feelings about this right now, and I want to stand up and be counted. Thanks to the organizers for creating space to share. It has [...]

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The Revolutionary Technique for Creativity, Flat Abs, Fabulous Parenting, Evolved Spirituality and General Awesomeness thumbnail

While I'm away, I'm digging back into my archives and posting a few goodies from the way-back machine. Enjoy! Here it is. Let’s all take a deep breath. Become a beginner. Not an expert. Not yet. First, you must start someplace. A start, a beginning, will humble you and bring you to your knees. Stay [...]

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“I could never do what you’re doing” is a cop-out. thumbnail

While I'm away, I'm digging back into my archives and posting a few goodies from the way-back machine. Enjoy! I’m at the doctor’s office, or church, or at a new women’s group. Someone asks where my child goes to school, and I tell them we homeschool. Before I got comfortable with homeschooling, I assumed people [...]

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There’s power in naming the truth: for SheLoves Magazine thumbnail

Recently, I blithely told one of my friends from high school that my experience in our church youth group had been largely positive. Here’s why I felt that way: the group was my first time in Christian fellowship. I served in leadership for three years, was there for almost every event, made a tight group [...]

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I am a spiritual misfit

I am a spiritual misfit thumbnail

“I am not the Christian I want to be.” I typed the words on my computer, then I stared at them for a minute. For my hammering heart and the cold sweat I felt slinking down my arms, one would think I were confessing to some kind of felony. No: thought crimes were all I [...]

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a pause, an exhale, a faithful break

a pause, an exhale, a faithful break thumbnail

Guys. You know that thing where you're on a roll? Where there are good things happening and there are so many things you can do, because life is full and rich and there's healing and good conversations and-- and the roll can start to feel a little bit like a snowball hurtling downhill, gathering speed? I [...]

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when vulnerability is the best lesson of all

when vulnerability is the best lesson of all thumbnail

To be honest, I’m still not sure why I freaked out about the clay. My daughter had found the battery-powered pottery wheel at the thrift store. Her face flushed with excitement, she placed the box on the counter and paid for it with her allowance. I was tentative at best. The thing looked like a [...]

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On giving up: why I hate confessing my sins

On giving up: why I hate confessing my sins thumbnail

For a long time, I thought the reason I didn't like confession was because facing the things I've done wrong during the day--an attitude of entitlement, say, or sheer impatience with my family, or arrogance and vanity--well, it's painful. It's like the moment when my daughters come screaming to me with a skinned knee, all [...]

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Please, Leadership Journal: Take down that post.

I cannot express to your my horror and outrage at the article up on Christianity Today's Leadership Journal. I was in a youth group like the one described, where a close friend was the victim. The reverberations of that abuse, and the abusive culture of our youth group, are still with me. And I didn't [...]

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Honor’s promise: simple as buttered toast

Honor’s promise: simple as buttered toast thumbnail

My kids do something that drives me crazy. I say, “Come here,” and they look me in the eye, turn, and run in the opposite direction. They’re fast. It’s not always easy to catch up with them. And the whole point is that I don’t want to chase them. I just want them to do [...]

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